tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36986282754107843112024-03-12T22:22:03.026-07:00 Heart Passion InstituteHeart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-86059390781544620022017-11-13T02:22:00.000-08:002017-11-13T02:22:02.433-08:00Opening Your Heart Part 2 of 7 - Gratitude<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/oSM4tS3Y0pM" width="480"></iframe>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-40903197530565603272017-09-08T10:00:00.000-07:002017-09-08T10:00:04.547-07:00Living from your heart Series- Dating<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/videoseries?list=PLWNpfIGA78wFNcpEE0e5fHqYiHBhQ7fVJ" width="425"></iframe>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-55350653454956072372017-07-31T05:15:00.000-07:002017-07-31T05:15:28.823-07:00Opening Your Heart with Melody Chadamoyo<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "youtube noto" , "roboto" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Part 1:7</span><br />
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What constitutes being a man? If I was to ask ten random men, and ten random women, I believe I would get 20 fairly different answers. There might be some similarities in what everyone considers to be "manly," but I would bet there would be enough differences, that most of us would step back and say "I hadn't thought of that."</div>
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For me, being a man first and foremost means owning my life the best that I can. The decisions that I make, I want to be my own, and that I have confidence in them. After all, the actions that make up the life you live are truly the most truthful description of who and what you are. You can talk a good game about anything. But in the end, you should judge yourself by your actions.</div>
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I'd like then to think, that the actions I perform every day are what make me a man.</div>
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For my family, it's putting my children first, ensuring that their basic needs are met and that I am good shepherd in this journey that they are on. Being compassionate to them, but also setting boundaries and consequences that help them grow into mature, considerate and independent adults is key to me feeling like I am being a good man.</div>
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For my community, it is about being engaged, and caring enough not just for friends and neighbors, but helping total strangers if and when I can, because that shows I am responsible to the world for helping it be a better place. I don't subscribe to the rugged individualist role when it comes to determining if I am living up to the man I envision myself to be. Charity, even if it is something as simple as a smile at the post office to a civil servant who is largely overlooked, to me is being a man.</div>
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For the workplace, being a man means having integrity, acting from a place of leadership and conviction, to both guide an organization to its goals, but also be a responsible citizen of the marketplace.</div>
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And then there is the role where "manliness" is perhaps most distinct, in opposition to a life partner. For me, being with a woman means that I walk that balance between being strong, supportive and directive when she needs me to take the lead, but also understanding that as a female, she very well might respond differently to situations, words, needs, emotions. There, it can be a tightrope, walking the line of projecting a "manliness" from a bygone era when "men were men," and being the softer, compassionate man I find so many women want today.</div>
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Being a man isn't easy today. I don't mind saying that. I am happy to hear from women and men whether they understand what I am saying here, and to discuss the role of men more. I think this is a healthy dialogue, and I know I learn more every time I open myself up and am vulnerable to discussions like this. But the world needs to discuss these things as so many men I know feel trapped in models of manliness that they feel compelled to subscribe to. I see couples struggling on both sides of the equation, where the scales alternate their balance between the "manly" man, and the more modern sensitive man society sometimes demands, and at other times mocks.</div>
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For now, I guess the easiest thing for me to do is simply be me. This is the man I am. It is the man I want my children, my lover, my community, to remember when I am long gone. I just want to be the best me I can be.</div>
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So ladies of have heard from the man himself. I believe we can only live together in harmony when we understand each other. What new things have you learnt about men you didn't already know? Do these things differ from your perceptions? Would you like to learn more about how men view the world?</div>
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Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-67084855449164079342017-07-19T09:56:00.001-07:002017-07-19T09:56:01.288-07:00Global Party Healing from inside out<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/videoseries?list=PLWNpfIGA78wGmKvYPG3-GW5gGYyShFjtp" width="425"></iframe>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-19747180902125122232016-03-11T02:20:00.002-08:002016-03-14T06:40:25.022-07:00Can men really be loyal?<span style="font-size: large;">Men value loyalty. Look at the way they would rather die than betray their team mates in football, their squad that they stick with to their own peril and how they stick to their friends no matter what. It is rare for men to go talking about what their friends have been doing to someone else even though they might not agree with what he is doing. This very dedicated loyalty. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am sure many women would argue that men don't know how to be loyal. Before a man is able to be loyal to you physically he has to feel loyal to you emotionally. This is tricky because most men are not emotionally aware. That means they feel very strongly but they are not always able to identify those emotions separately as women are able to. Of course there are some emotions like anger that are easier for them to identify.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Please leave a comment. If you need coaching contact me on <a href="mailto:heartpassioninstitute@gmail.com">heartpassioninstitute@gmail.com</a>.</span>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-27391825660362111032016-02-24T01:52:00.002-08:002016-02-24T01:52:22.518-08:00The most powerful way to get men to tell you how they feel<span style="font-size: large;">Men are a puzzle to women. The biggest puzzle about men is that they don't like to open up and show you how they really feel. There are many reasons for this and some of them go back to our caveman days. Even in today's society with all the technology that is available no one really knows how another person thinks. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">When you're being authentic then he feels safe enough that if you can be open to him then he can also be open with you. I found that my husband used to tell me all these important things at very odd times. Some of the stuff were painful things that would have happened and I chose to be kind to him. I understood his need to tell me and if I couldn't do anything I just held him. Don't judge him for who he is and practice acceptance and love at all times.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">If you enjoyed this, please leave a comment. If you require a coach get in touch at <a href="mailto:heartpassioninstitute@gmail.com">heartpassioninstitute@gmail.com</a>.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-10947765867048427482016-02-12T04:26:00.000-08:002016-02-12T04:26:37.995-08:00When light and ice collide they create a rainbow<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6UPa7TU38rypF1coPlNSPnbfa4exLu3ImnbEOp_dzAjOJSsIgtRL6AV0bMK5hkLhVp-fX4LYtjE3RVmvVqUdzF07wE5gERq7ddUqJalvzC0KqJhjIqi-aNWcqOy5aLwyhYNo79RXIZvAT/s1600/Nacreous+Rainbow.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; display: inline !important; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><img border="0" height="212" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6UPa7TU38rypF1coPlNSPnbfa4exLu3ImnbEOp_dzAjOJSsIgtRL6AV0bMK5hkLhVp-fX4LYtjE3RVmvVqUdzF07wE5gERq7ddUqJalvzC0KqJhjIqi-aNWcqOy5aLwyhYNo79RXIZvAT/s320/Nacreous+Rainbow.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Recently in Dublin we had an interesting weather phenomenon. It looked so beautiful and my kids wondered if we were looking at Northern Lights! It was that spectacular and a wonder to wake up to. I later learnt that, </span><i style="font-size: x-large;">"The iridescent clouds are a diffraction phenomenon caused by low winter sunlight bouncing off small ice crystals in the clouds and scattering the light to create a pattern similar to rainbows although in a different pattern." </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But if you just take time everyday to feel your heart and breathe through it light starts to filter in like in the clouds. </span><span style="font-size: large;">You will feel love for yourself, the most magical thing because that is the source of life and of real living. </span><span style="font-size: large;">You will create a magical rainbow that allows you to feel love more and more.</span><br />
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Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-72081407994762583182016-02-05T04:56:00.001-08:002016-02-05T04:56:32.715-08:00Do you allow Brules to determine how you live your life?There are many ideas that come through the media like January 19th is Depression day because most people have stopped doing their new year's resolutions and they feel bad about it or that January 4th is divorce day. It is the day most couples file for divorce because of the added stress from the holidays and Christmas would have been the last straw.<br />
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I would think spending time together would make couples feel closer but that is not the case according to research. I find this very sad. Why do I find this sad? Because it doesn't have to be that way at all. We have all bought into this Brule or <b>Bull shit rule</b> according to Vishen Lakhiani, that couples have to take out all the stress on each other. That love only lasts for a very short time and then it sucks and that love is frustrating and painful.<br />
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What if I were to tell you that there is another way and it is not finding another partner at all. Actually research has shown that even though in most Western countries 50% of first marriages end in divorce 63 % of second and 72% of third marriages also end in divorce.<br />
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Start by being authentic to yourself. What do you value? What is important to you? Why is this relationship important to you? Why is this issue important to you? After reading this take pen and paper or whatever you use for writing and answer those questions. You cannot be successfully in a relationship with another person unless you know the answers to those questions.<br />
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When you know this then you will be able to stand in your truth and be who you really are. When you're being who you are authentically everyone around you will respect that. This also gives you the freedom to allow people to be who they really are with you without feeling the need to conform to your ideals. This is real freedom and love.<br />
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Whenever I found myself irritable and getting annoyed with my husband I would do something fun for myself. Sometimes it was to just to hang out with my friends not to bash him but to connect and laugh at silly things, watch a comedy or spend time with my sisters or my mom. This always made me feel happy and less irritable. I know when I feel good I am more patient and generous. Try that and see what happens.<br />
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I can help you figure out why you're standing in your way of happiness and what you can do about it so that you can enjoy your ideal relationship. I can show you how to turn your spouse into the great man or woman you married several years ago. When I walk you through the secrets you will wonder why you never thought of them before because they are so simple to do but they will transform your life. Are you ready?.........<br />
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Send me an email at <a href="mailto:heartcandyy@gmail.com">heartcandyy@gmail.com</a> and I can help you make your relationships awesome.Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-6334819203859894252015-10-30T05:50:00.001-07:002015-10-30T05:50:26.653-07:00Male brain is programmed to seek out sex over food<h2 style="background-color: white; color: #777777; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 24px; font-stretch: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.25; margin: -10px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">
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Co-author Professor Scott Emmons, from the Departments of Genetics and Neuroscience at Albert Einstein College of Medicine, said: "Though the work is carried out in a small worm, it nevertheless gives us a perspective that helps us appreciate and possibly understand the variety of human sexuality, sexual orientation, and gender identification.</div>
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Scientists conditioned the worms so that when salt was present they realised that they would be starved. Over time, the worms moved away from the salt. However when the salt was present at the same time as a mate, the male worm still moved towards the mate. In contrast, hermaphrodites moved away from the salt even when a mate was present.</div>
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"We've shown how genetic and developmental differences between the two sexes lead to structural changes in the brain of male worms during sexual maturation.</div>
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“These changes make male brains work differently, allowing males to remember previous sexual encounters and prioritise sex in future situations."<br />
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The research was published in the journal Nature.</div>
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Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-85638906381316094612015-10-16T08:08:00.002-07:002015-10-16T08:14:32.640-07:00Have you asked yourself these questions about men?<span style="font-size: large;">Why men quit being romantic?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why commitment seems so difficult for men?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why they don't seem to listen when you're speaking to them?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why sex seems the only thing most men think about?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why they seem so insensitive?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Or even why they won't talk about how they feel?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why passion goes away?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Why good men are so hard to find?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Do you find yourself any or all of the above questions with your girlfriends and never really come up with answers? I can help you not only answer these questions but get to understand men in a way you never thought possible. What if I told you that all the above questions just come up because as women we have forgotten how to use our Feminine Elegance which is the key to understanding them? Women like Sarah from the Bible are an example of many women<b> </b>who grew up in the times when women were never taken seriously and yet they had such power and influence. How did they do that? The secrets I can teach you will help you unlock that knowledge again so you can use it to your advantage.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">If you're curious to know more, send us an email at heartcandyy@gmail.com.</span>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-52578504327402280692015-09-28T01:42:00.000-07:002015-09-28T01:42:48.789-07:00The story of the 5 balls<span style="font-size: large;">I am sure you have heard the story of juggling five balls which I got from <i>"Suzanne's diary for Nicholas" </i>by James Patterson. They are called work, family, health, friends and integrity. Family, health, friends and integrity are made of glass <b>but</b> work is a rubber ball. We spend most of our lives going through formal education and training so that we're good enough to qualify for and be excellent at our jobs. Yet we devote very little time and attention to family, health, friends and integrity which I define as our relationships with ourselves and each other. Since these are made of glass maybe we need to put more work in making them healthier. It is our relationships that make us feel happy and fulfilled. Love is always about adding, increasing, growing and connecting. Dr. Dispenza says, and I agree with him, these days it is not enough just to know but it is time to know how. Let me show you how to have awesome relationships that help to make you feel fulfilled in life.</span><br />
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For some reason women believe that suffering is a good thing. Why else would we put up with it so much if we don't like it? For example a lot of women find themselves in dissatisfying relationships and instead of using their power to resolve issues they settle and put up with them. They treat themselves badly ensuring that they are the last to get anything good including personal time. In most cultures women eat the least nutritious food even though they are responsible for bearing children. How does this make sense? Dr. Phil said, "If you love your children take care of their mother." This is so true to me. The reason women are still at a disadvantage even now is because women bring up their sons not to value women. They don't teach them how to cook, clean and take care of their <br />
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environment. In doing that they are demonstrating to their sons that they have no responsibility at all to do those chores. Furthermore they are saying a woman's job is to be a servant to a man. I have been lucky enough to be married to a man who was trained by his own mother to do all house hold chores. When we began our life together he just took it as part of life to do jobs around the house. He never felt less of a man because of it. While men are out working women could and should train their boys how to be good human beings instead of defining them with their functions. We spend so much time with our children that our influence should be the one we pass on. That is why it is fundamental for human evolution and development that women be educated in all aspects of life because we are responsible for passing on human development to the next generation. While girls have been trained for generations to be strong, achieve more and be more masculine, sons are being left behind. This just creates incompatibility in sexes which causes more pain and suffering.<br />
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<a name='more'></a>I am not advocating a war against men at all but I am saying use your feminine energy to get what you want. Learn to say no to the things that don't make you happy in a non confrontational but effective way. Learn to say no when you mean no and say yes when you mean yes. For example, when we started discussing marriage with Tau he suggested that he expected me to be a stay at home mom. I don't have anything against those who do it but it is not for me. Instead of getting upset and having a fight I just said, "Then I am the wrong woman for you. Maybe you need to find someone else who will be able to do what you need." He got the message and the issue was resolved. If I had agreed and then turned around and said that's not what I want it would've been unfair to him. My feminine energy helped me to call him on the things he didn't want to face or I didn't want to face but that were important for us to resolve so neither of us had wrong expectations.<br />
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Now if you allow yourself to be treated badly, undermined and undervalued then I am sorry but there isn't a time when someone is going to come and save you. Really there is no price for suffering in this world and I think even in heaven you will still get what you believe you deserve. You suffer every time you do things that don't give you joy. You also suffer when you nag, scream, stamp your feet and insist on being right all the time. You have joy when you let love lead you and help you to express yourself in the most effective manner possible. It is important to hold your integrity and ensure your purity all the time. If it doesn't feel good then don't do it. Love yourself first and everyone around you will love you too.<br />
If you need help to learn how to do this, please get in touch.<br />
<i>Please leave comments, they are always welcome.</i>Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-8256473501081284302015-03-10T14:16:00.000-07:002016-04-01T05:11:52.013-07:00What is the effect of Feminine Energy? <div style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;">
<span style="font-size: large;">Feminine energy is usually calm and serene. We value to be seen and to connect with people. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">On the other side boys for example, usually make vroom vroom noises, and run and punch each other for no reason. Everything is about speed, noise and competition. Most of them love adventure and taking risks. In my experience girls who tend to lean towards that behaviour have had either a father or brothers who encouraged them to play with them that way as well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">In the case of men and women I believe men need that feminine energy to calm them and relax them. This means you're at your most effective if you tap into your feminine energy when you're dealing with a man. He has no choice but to relax in your presence. Now if you get all confrontational and aggressive you are really fighting against yourself. You never feel good afterwards anyway.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">As women we also need men's energy to give us the drive and focused attention that is required for us to survive in the world. We need each other. The world would be a much better place if we used our most dominant energies either feminine or masculine to compliment each other not to fight against each other. We have enough evidence to prove that doesn't work so maybe we need to try something else that does.</span><br />
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Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-62245817179583196732015-03-02T02:12:00.002-08:002015-03-02T02:12:45.151-08:00How I learnt to receive love from a man<br />
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Growing up my dad trained us girls to be self reliant. He used to say, "I don't want you to need a man." So we learnt to fix the car with him, slaughter and skin a goat, fix the stove and iron when they broke down and we even put a concrete slab by ourselves just outside the kitchen door. Our mom was not feminine in the way I have discovered most women are. The only decorative thing on our wall was a mirror she got as a gift from a cousin. She dressed really well but she was also really not like most women. She wasn't fussily female at all. I was self dependent and I never thought there was anything I couldn't do for myself. Having said that dad made sure mom was always taken care of. Her shoes were polished by him or us. When she was on night shift being a nurse we knew never to make noise enough that would wake her up. We made sure even the people who passed by our house did so quietly.<br />
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So fast forward after I got married. First thing was the light bulb needed changing. I got a chair, climbed up and changed the bulb. I think I probably asked him to pass me the new one. After I had finished I noticed that he looked a little sad. He never said anything. When I did it for the second time the sadness doubled. I realised that by doing that I was saying I didn't need him. From then on I would ask him to fix things that needed fixing and he was great about doing them. He washed dishes as well so I didn't have to do them which would interfere with his need to spend time looking at me or because I would have cooked. We became a team. We complimented each other even with chores. He loved to hoover so he did. I ironed and cooked sometimes. Most of the time we did things together as well. I learnt that loving him meant going to the supermarket together. We used that time to reconnect by filling each other up with what would've been happening during the week. We laughed, I danced down the isle which made him laugh.<br />
Men want to do things for you if they really care about you. He would drive all night to bring you firewood or just to see you. He would take care of you when you're sick, carry you to the bathroom and wash your body for you when you can't. He would make sure you're wearing warm socks so your feet are not cold. His face would get so fearful if your life is threatened in any way. What you have to learn to do is to receive his way of showing you love. You need to show you need him and be grateful for his gestures. Take it the way he does it even if it looks awkward and not how you would do it and he would treasure you for valuing his contribution to you. Men also want to be needed. Help them by receiving with grace.Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-10816330607885220032015-02-22T07:12:00.001-08:002015-02-22T07:12:36.484-08:00The art of getting what you wantWomen tend to believe that they can't get what they want or they have to compromise and get a version of something that looks like what they want. This version is usually very far from the truth. For the majority of women they hunt for the perfect wedding dress. They will seek high and low to find this perfect dress and they won't compromise for anything. They want it and they will make sure they get it. I find this very ironic because usually these same women did not put as much due diligence on choosing the man they are going to put on the dress for. Does this make sense?<br />
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I have always known a criteria of the man that I wanted. I was in boarding school and my friends and dorm mates all told me that that man did not exist. They even went on to tell me I would never get married because I had unrealistic expectations. I just said to myself if I can't find him then so be it. One day I went to church and I listed the qualities of the man I wanted. He had to be smarter than me but humble, he had to be patient, want to cook, enjoy adventure, funny, kind, loving, romantic and many others. I left the church and forgot about it. Slightly over a year later, I had met the man I was going to marry. I later found out that he fulfilled all my needs and more. He was perfect man. He didn't need fixing but he needed my love. I gave him the love he needed and he gave me the love I needed. In doing that we both grew to be better human beings than we could have been if we had not found each other. I was so proud of my choice. As a human he wasn't perfect and neither am I but my love was strong enough to let his imperfections raise the bar of my ability to love.<br />
So the trick is know what it is you want, recognise it when you find it and celebrate having it.Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-31928373571212842212015-02-14T14:11:00.000-08:002015-02-14T14:15:21.635-08:00How to avoid being ugly?<br />
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We all know how fights can be ugly. Why do we say that? Because the people fighting will be saying and doing things that are harmful to both their well being. I read once in a book by Kara Oh called "Men made easy" that behaviour that doesn't use Feminine Elegance is ugly. Being ugly is to complain all the time, to ridicule and badge your man or other people, to nag and to make your man or any man feel bad and wrong because they just happen to process things differently than you do.</div>
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As women we want to be perceived as beautiful, pretty, good looking anything at all that is pleasing to the eye. That is just the outside. What about inside? I think it is even more important to be Elegant inside. Elegant is described by the Oxford dictionary as, "Graceful and stylish in appearance or manner." What woman would not love that? The good thing is you can't be both elegant and ugly at the same time. </div>
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So how do you choose to be elegant? You stay in the moment. You don't react to triggers but you respond. You allow the people around you to be who they are authentically without feeling threatened. You take charge of your emotions and manner. The words that come out of your mouth shouldn't leave you feeling ugly but should leave you feeling good inside. You teach yourself to relax and to have a sense of humour. You are able to laugh at yourself and you don't take yourself too seriously. You don't take everything that happens around you personally. You express yourself with confidence. You are authentic. You allow you heart to open and love freely. If you manage to develop these skills you will have amazing relationships because it would be fun to be around you.<br />
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Heart Passion Institutehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01038299348529080497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698628275410784311.post-38126867032482410722015-01-11T06:16:00.000-08:002015-01-11T06:51:04.147-08:00How to use your Feminine Elegance<div class="MsoNormal">
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I used to think that I wasn't powerful. I lost control, screamed, cried and bullied any man whom I thought was being unfair to me. I got married at 24. I was so in love with my boyfriend and we had done the work. We are the couple that had discussed the kind of marriage we wanted, how many kids, how we respond to parents' need of our assistance, or siblings etc. We also had lived together for while so I thought I knew everything about my man. I wanted kids so I had even checked out how he handled little people and even how he treated people in need. He had passed with flying colours. After a year of marriage I was miserable. I couldn't understand how that could be. I even told my mom I wanted a divorce. I had gone back to college so I couldn't really afford to leave him and we had emigrated which meant I would have no help with child minding. I decided to stay while I finished my Masters. I also decided to find out what was going wrong. I started reading so I could understand how relationships work. I knew I didn't want to live in that environment and I also didn't want to grow up in that environment. I grew up in a happy home so I knew how valuable that was. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So I read, "Getting the love you want, a guide for couples" by Harville Hendrix, "Men are from mars, women are from Venus," by John Gray and others. I knew what I didn't want but from that I decided I wanted a home that was joyous, fun and full of love. I wanted to look forward going home everyday after work. I wanted to look forward to my husband coming home after work. While I was doing all that soul searching and work something clicked and I suddenly knew how to respond when I felt triggered by my husband. I stopped lashing out. I would tell him when I was unhappy about something but now I did it gracefully. I got better results so I kept improving on that. After 18 months we were back on our love path and enjoying each other. This time we had a better appreciation of each other because we now knew it was possible to lose it all. We survived the conflict stage. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Every day we rushed home to be together. We chatted and texted during the day and just enjoyed being together. We were both grateful for what we had. I remember after our 10th wedding anniversary and I was waiting for him to meet him so we could go home together. I was so excited to see him. I noticed it and I thought it was hilarious after so long. I was happy that I managed to get us back to a great flow. As it happened my husband got cancer and died. I was devastated but I survived and I am doing alright now. <o:p></o:p></div>
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During my grieving period I talked a lot about him and us as a couple. I learnt then that other couples never get out of the conflict stage. That other couples are not as happy as I assumed they were like we were. Learning that was an eye opener for me. I started looking back to see what it is that was so different about us? I remembered all the things that I did and I spent time reviewing and writing them down. Now I want to help other women use my secrets or tools to also have good and happy relationships. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I started Heart Candy Institute to do just that. At Heart Candy Institute we work with women on how to use their femininity as a power base to pursue their gifts and talents to bring value to their lives and others so that every time they "get a chance to be a WOW "!<o:p></o:p></div>
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