Can men really be loyal?

Men value loyalty. Look at the way they would rather die than betray their team mates in football, their squad that they stick with to their own peril and how they stick to their friends no matter what. It is rare for men to go talking about what their friends have been doing to someone else even though they might not agree with what he is doing. This very dedicated loyalty. 

I am sure many women would argue that men don't know how to be loyal. Before a man is able to be loyal to you physically he has to feel loyal to you emotionally. This is tricky because most men are not emotionally aware. That means they feel very strongly but they are not always able to identify those emotions separately as women are able to. Of course there are some emotions like anger that are easier for them to identify.

If a man tells you things from his heart that are important to him that means he trusts you with his emotions. If you go and tell your friends about his vulnerable moments or if you use what he has said in a moment of anger to cause him pain, he will shut down. He will not trust you with his emotions again.

When you find that your man used to confide his hopes and dreams to you and he stopped. It usually means he feels betrayed by you. You will need to work really hard to get him to trust you again. Now if you want him to continue telling you how he really feels regularly, then he needs

to feel that he can come to you and tell you his deepest emotional stuff and be who he really is and you will be on his side.

 I learnt this lesson the hard way. My husband had problems getting along with some members of his family and I thought avoiding them was best so I used to give him a hard time every time he decided to go visit them. What he needed me to do was to understand that he needed to interact with these people  instead of making him feel bad and saying how weak he was to waste some of his time with these people, I was just supposed to be there for him and supported him. Once I figured that it was his decision and it was more helpful to be supportive than judging we had more harmony between us and like wise he always had my back.
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