Apologies my friends

I would like to thank all those who were reading my posts. I really appreciate your interest in my thoughts and ideas. I have been quiet because I decided to create a program that I am going to use for coaching all those of you who wish to go deeper with me. Anyway from now on I will be giving you tips on how to start making your relationships more fun and exciting. I will not be writing long articles but just giving hints and tips on the practical things you can start to do for yourself.

So today write down 5 things you just love about yourself. It might be how you cook good meals, play football with your kids or look after yourself. It should be personal and meaningful to you. See how great you feel after that exercise.

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How to avoid suffering by using your feminine energy

For some reason women believe that suffering is a good thing. Why else would we put up with it so much if we don't like it? For example a lot of women find themselves in dissatisfying relationships and instead of using their power to resolve issues they settle and put up with them. They treat themselves badly ensuring that they are the last to get anything good including personal time. In most cultures women eat the least nutritious food even though they are responsible for bearing children. How does this make sense? Dr. Phil said, "If you love your children take care of their mother." This is so true to me. The reason women are still at a disadvantage even now is because women bring up their sons not to value women. They don't teach them how to cook, clean and take care of their

environment. In doing that they are demonstrating to their sons that they have no responsibility at all to do those chores. Furthermore they are saying a woman's job is to be a servant to a man. I have been lucky enough to be married to a man who was trained by his own mother to do all house hold chores. When we began our life together he just took it as part of life to do jobs around the house. He never felt less of a man because of it. While men are out working women could and should train their boys how to be good human beings instead of defining them with their functions. We spend so much time with our children that our influence should be the one we pass on. That is why it is fundamental for human evolution and development that women be educated in all aspects of life because we are responsible for passing on human development to the next generation. While girls have been trained for generations to be strong, achieve more and be more masculine, sons are being left behind. This just creates incompatibility in sexes which causes more pain and suffering.

What is the effect of Feminine Energy?

Feminine energy is usually calm and serene. We value to be seen and to connect with people. 

                                     

On the other side boys for example,  usually make vroom vroom noises, and run and punch each other for no reason. Everything is about speed, noise and competition. Most of them love adventure and taking risks. In my experience girls who tend to lean towards that behaviour have had either a father or brothers who encouraged them to play with them that way as well.

I remember growing up, whenever there was discord usually caused by our arguments with our dad in our home all our mother had to do was enter a room and we all calmed down. That is the

How I learnt to receive love from a man

Growing up my dad trained us girls to be self reliant. He used to say, "I don't want you to need a man." So we learnt to fix the car with him, slaughter and skin a goat, fix the stove and iron when they broke down and we even put a concrete slab by ourselves just outside the kitchen door. Our mom was not feminine in the way I have discovered most women are. The only decorative thing on our wall was a mirror she got as a gift from a cousin. She dressed really well but she was also really not like most women. She wasn't fussily female at all. I was self dependent and I never thought there was anything I couldn't do for myself. Having said that dad made sure mom was always taken care of. Her shoes were polished by him or us. When she was on night shift being a nurse we knew never to make noise enough that would wake her up. We made sure even the people who passed by our house did so quietly.

The art of getting what you want

Women tend to believe that they can't get what they want or they have to compromise and get a version of something that looks like what they want. This version is usually very far from the truth. For the majority of women they hunt for the perfect wedding dress. They will seek high and low to find this perfect dress and they won't compromise for anything. They want it and they will make sure they get it. I find this very ironic because usually these same women did not put as much due diligence on choosing the man they are going to put on the dress for. Does this make sense?

I have always known a criteria of the man that I wanted. I  was in boarding school and my friends and dorm mates all told me that that man did not exist. They even went on to tell me I would never get married because I had unrealistic expectations. I just said to myself if I can't find him then so be it. One day I went to church and I listed the qualities of the man I wanted. He had to be smarter than me but humble, he had to be patient, want to cook, enjoy adventure, funny, kind, loving, romantic and many others. I left the church and forgot about it. Slightly over a year later, I had met the man I was going to marry. I later found out that he fulfilled all my needs and more. He was perfect man. He didn't need fixing but he needed my love. I gave him the love he needed and he gave me the love I needed. In doing that we both grew to be better human beings than we could have been if we had not found each other. I was so proud of my choice. As a human he wasn't perfect and neither am I but my love was strong enough to let his imperfections raise the bar of my ability to love.
So the trick is know what it is you want, recognise it when you find it and celebrate having it.

How to avoid being ugly?

We all know how fights can be ugly. Why do we say that? Because the people fighting will be saying and doing things that are harmful to both their well being.  I read once in a book by Kara Oh called "Men made easy" that behaviour that doesn't use Feminine Elegance is ugly. Being ugly is to complain all the time, to ridicule and badge your man or other people, to nag and to make your man or any man feel bad and wrong because they just happen to process things differently than you do.

As women we want to be perceived as beautiful, pretty, good looking anything at all that is pleasing to the eye. That is just the outside. What about inside? I think it is even more important to be Elegant inside. Elegant  is described by the Oxford dictionary as, "Graceful and stylish in appearance or manner." What woman would not love that? The good thing is you can't be both elegant and ugly at the same time. 

So how do you choose to be elegant? You stay in the moment. You don't react to triggers but you respond. You allow the people around you to be who they are authentically without feeling threatened. You take charge of your emotions and manner. The words that come out of your mouth shouldn't  leave you feeling ugly but should leave you feeling good inside. You teach yourself to relax and to have a sense of humour. You are able to laugh at yourself and you don't take yourself too seriously. You don't take everything that happens around you personally. You express yourself with confidence. You are authentic. You allow you heart to open and love freely. If you manage to develop these skills you will have amazing relationships because it would be fun to be around you.

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